Hello..i guess the title managed to attract your attention to read on..haha..it's funny how certain titles can keep your eyes glued on or ears tuned on..especially when it comes to BGR topic..boy-girl relationship..i've just read the book Boy Meets Girl by Joshua Harris and would like to share some insights along with my opinions from the book..believe me or not..i've never ever dated a guy..not even once..i've kissed dating goodbye like Joshua Harris..my girlfriends used to envy me for being the one whom guys will ask for the number wherever i go..somehow, all of them are attached today..all except me which bring their concern for my love life..whenever we meet up, there goes the same question..Mei Chern, where's ur boyfriend? Aiya..don't be so picky la..
Let me clarify..as a woman of God, i've learnt to trust God on this particular area - my relationship area..first, i want God to be the locus of my life..whatever that i do, it shall be God-focused..as for BGR matters, i'm not worried about meeting the right one..yes, there are a number of guys who are pursuing me but i'm firm with my decision to keep my vow with God not to be involved in any BGR until the period has ended..many would said that it is a sad decision for those who do not understand but in fact i would say that being single is a gift and BLESSING in fact..a season for me to focus on God and Him alone without any distraction..
It is also a season for me to prepare myself before getting involved in a relationship as it is a new phase of life..a BGR is a SERIOUS matter for both the man and woman..it's about trusting in God when it comes into starting a relationship, not one another as that is of the worldly thought..it's about ROMANCE with PURPOSE..to discover whether both of you can complement one another like Adam and Eve..courtship is about a relationship between a man and woman as they weigh the idea of marriage together..a journey to discover one another..
Everyone has the beautiful side of their love story if they were to wait upon the Lord..a relationship should not be rushed..it's like a process of baking a cake..the cake would not turn out nice if you were to skip one of the steps..courtship is a time for two people to grow in friendship, get to know one another and interact as a couple along with the consideration of marriage as a wise choice at hand..however, there are some courtship stories that ended up with two people deciding that they should remain as friends..
Adam is created first before Eve..hence, a man is suppose to assume the responsibility of leading and initiating in relationships with women..therefore, guys should be the one to initiate..a girl should never ever initiate..Eve is created as a helper to Adam..a woman is to submit to her husband as he is the leader of the household..therefore, my idea of a healthy relationship will be of one which i can thank God for a relationship is a GIFT from God..with both of us relying on GOD as the source of comfort and strength in the realtionship, NOT on one another which others often regard in today's world..
God had our future planned right in front of us at times..i pray for the peace of God to come as i prepare myself for the right guy..that i shall rely on Him instead of relying on my own plans..my favorite verse just struck me many times recently..Proverbs 3:5-6 "Trust the Lord with ALL your HEART and lean not on your own understanding, in ALL your ways ACKNOWLEDGE Him and He shall direct your paths!" Amen=) Well, a beautiful love story from me awaits to be unfolded as i trust in Him for wisdom in the story of Boy Meets Girl as God leads me to the journey of romance with a purpose;) hope to share the story by writing a book sometime in the future if God allows me..hehe;)
